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Looking Out for Others: How to Support a Colleague or Friend with Poor Mental Health

Mental health is something we all have, just like physical health and it can fluctuate from time to time. Some days we feel on top of the world, and others we may feel overwhelmed or low. The same goes for those around us, which is why looking out for each other is so important.

If you’re concerned that a friend, colleague, or someone you care about may be struggling with their mental health, you’re not powerless. In fact, your support could make a huge difference.

It starts with awareness learning to recognise the possible signs that someone might not be coping so well.

  1. What Should I Be Looking For?

There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to signs of poor mental wellbeing. Everyone is different. However, there are a few common changes that might suggest someone is struggling.

2. Physical Signs

You might notice changes such as:

  • Becoming uncharacteristically untidy or unkempt
  • Noticeable weight gain or weight loss
  • Always seeming tired or low in energy
  • Frequent complaints of physical symptoms like headaches or stomach problems

These signs can be subtle at first but may become more apparent over time.

3. Behavioural Signs

Changes in how someone acts can be even more telling. Look out for:

  • Becoming withdrawn or unusually quiet
  • Showing little interest or enthusiasm
  • Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
  • A drop in work performance, missed deadlines or frequent absence
  • Avoiding social situations or regular routines

4. Emotional and Mood-Related Signs

You might also notice mood shifts or emotional struggles, such as:

  • Frequent irritability, frustration, or unexplained anger
  • Seeming overwhelmed or close to tears
  • Expressing worry, fear or a sense of helplessness without a clear reason

It’s important to trust your instincts – if something feels off, it probably is.

5. What Can I Do to Help?

If you’ve noticed some of the above signs, and you’re concerned, reaching out can be incredibly meaningful. You don’t have to be an expert – just someone who cares.

Start by checking in with them in a calm, non-judgemental way. A simple, “How have you been lately?” or “I’ve noticed you don’t seem yourself – is everything OK?” can open the door.

If you’re not sure how to approach it, you might find our Mental Health Awareness Training.

Let them know you’re there, you’re listening, and they don’t have to go through it alone.

Summary

Supporting a friend or colleague with poor mental health starts with awareness. Look out for physical, behavioural and emotional changes that might signal someone is struggling. You don’t need to have all the answers, simply being there and showing you care can go a long way. A quiet word, a supportive chat, or a simple message might be just what they need to begin getting help.

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